Sex Therapy for Men & Couples

Sex therapy for gay and queer men

I’m ready to start the process of sex therapy, but I have a few more questions...

Are we only going to talk about sex in session? 

No. Sex therapy is only one type of work that I'm trained in. A sexual health issue may bring you into counseling, but we can certainly move into other areas of your life or relationship.

Will talking about sex really make it better?

Many issues around sexual health are related to stress, anxiety, body image, and other psychological factors. While I often check in to make sure you've ruled out physical issues, much work can be done to improve your sexual health in the therapy space.

I'm uncomfortable talking about sex with other people. Will that be a problem?

So many of us have hang-ups around sex and sexuality. This is often a result of upbringing, community, or culture. And our sex education lacks a ton in this country, especially for LGBTQ+ folx. We will start slow and remember that I'm trained in how to help you talk about difficult topics to find resolution.

 

Sex can be complicated and messy. But at its core, pleasure is a human right. If you’re facing challenges like erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, or intimacy issues, you’re not alone. These concerns can affect your relationships, confidence, and overall well-being.

As a therapist specializing in sex therapy for men in Denver, I help individuals, couples and relationships navigate sexual concerns, strengthen intimacy, and create fulfilling, pleasurable connections.

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy is a specialized form of counseling designed to address sexual health concerns, improve intimacy, and explore issues related to desire, arousal, and performance. Whether you’re experiencing anxiety around sex, struggling with past trauma, or looking to enhance your sexual experiences, sex therapy provides a safe, nonjudgmental space to work through these concerns.

What is sexual health?

According to the World Health Organization (WHO) sexual health is “…a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.” (WHO, 2006a)

In other words, sexual health isn’t just about avoiding problems—it’s about fostering a pleasurable, affirming, and satisfying sex life.

Common Sexual Health Concerns for Men

I primarily work with men in relationships—whether gay, straight, bisexual, trans or polyamorous—and those navigating individual sexual concerns. Many men experience challenges related to:

Past Sexual Experiences:

  • History of Sexual Trauma

  • Growing Up Queer/Gay

  • Body Image Issues

Present Sexual Concerns

  • Erectile Dysfunction (ED) – Difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection

  • Premature Ejaculation (PE) – Finishing too quickly, leading to frustration

  • Out-of-Control-Sexual-Behavior (OCSB) - sex that feels impulsive or compulsive in nature

  • Performance Anxiety – Fear or pressure around sexual encounters

  • Low Sexual Desire – Lack of interest in sex, causing distress in relationships

  • Kink & BDSM Exploration – Navigating desires, boundaries, and communication

  • Open Relationships & Polyamory – Managing desires, boundaries, and emotional dynamics

How Sex Therapy Can Help

As a sex and relationship therapist I often help people address the following issues:

  • Exploring open relationships or consensual non-monogamy

  • Navigating differences in sexual desire

  • Finding balance in kink/BDSM dynamics

  • Rekindling the spark in long-term relationships

  • Creating a more pleasurable and satisfying sex life

  • Understanding your desires and helping with impulsive or compulsive sex

Sexual Relationship Issues

As a sex therapist who specializes in relationship work, many issues can come up in couples therapy.

  • Desire to open the relationship

  • Differences in desire

  • Differences around Kink/BDSM

  • Desire to rekindle the spark

  • Hopes for a more pleasurable sex life together

What to expect from sex therapy?

Like any therapy process, the first few sessions involve discussing the reasons you’re seeking help and your goals for therapy. Some questions I might ask include:

  • Tell me about your sexual history.

  • Can you share with me about your sexual orientation and intersecting identities?

  • What do your relationships look like outside of the bedroom?

  • Please share with me more about your current sex life. Things like frequency? Type of sex? Masturbation?

  • How do you experience pleasure?

  • What are you longing for from your relationship sexually?

What sex therapy is NOT

Sex therapy never involves any sexual activity or touch with the therapist. Sessions are about talking through your sexual health, relationships, and challenges in a respectful, confidential setting. Boundaries are always maintained and respected.

Start Your Journey to Better Sexual Health

If you're ready to work through sexual concerns and build a more fulfilling, confident sex life, I’m here to help.

Schedule a Consultation Today

Let’s start the conversation—reach out to schedule an appointment and take the first step toward a healthier, more satisfying sex life.